Canes, feet, BBWS.. so much to tell!

It's a maelstrom of fetish and BDSM events! Hang on to your hats. Here we go:

First of all Thanks to Ms. Rae for Her caning demo this past Sunday at the OTC/Newbie Night at the Dungeon. I have seen this Dominant Woman wield a cane before as well as being given one of the canes She makes, and She knows Her stuff. Plus She's a warm and dynamic presenter so if you ever have the opportunity to see Her demo, don't miss it.

Thanks also to Master Matt, Pup and zilah(pronounced like Sheila with a Z) for promoting and organizing this group, consistanly offering quailty educational demos and keeping this thing going. Newbie Night is the 2nd Sunday of each month, and it's only $10! So mark your calendars.

Thursday we have the Foot and Fetish party. This is a great chance for guys out there who are curious about getting into exploring their fetishes but arent ready for anything extreme. It's lots of fun, friendly, fetish oriented girls doing short mini sessions so you can try a few different ladies and expirence different people's style. Spanking, tickling, light smothering, smoking are all on offer as well as foot, shoe and boot worship.

April 7, Command Performance will debut "Voluptous Vixens", a party for BBWs and thier admirers. We are very excited about this event and already have some awesome Curvy and Controlling guest Dommes who have RSVPed for this party! Go to the events page at CommandPerformance.net for more details.

In non CP event news: Had a great time at the FF medical Fetish party last saturday. The new venue is gorgeous and Lady Lotus and janet looked AMAZING. Mistress Bella was twisted and fantastic as well.

As they say in fabulous WM, I am TOTALLY HARD for this "CFNM party on April 8th. It's up on Fetlife. I love to stay in my Domme-chic while the men around me parade naked.

The next day it' s off to "Beyond Leather" where I will be immersed from the early morning (I think 1st workshop is at 9am!) till late at night.

I will be blogging more about those of these events still to come (which are PLENTY) so pay attention!

Happy Birthday to Lady Lotus!

It's not too late to stop by and offer Birthday Wishes (or gifts) to this smart, sexy sadist or just let her give you a special Birthday Weekend Beating. She's up at CP Friday night.

Guest Dominants

This is a busy month for new guests dominants at Command Performance.

First, we have Mistress Beatrice. An athletic and beautiful dominatrix from Montreal, visiting until early April. She speaks French and English, as well as paddle and cane!

She's also into:
Humiliation
CBT
Spanking
bondage
tease and denial
feet, legs, boots and shoes fetish
strap-on
fantasy wrestling
trampling
ball busting
Corporal punishment - from light to heavy
and more!

Next, we have Master Tony. A male leather dominant who very much enjoys taking a boy to his inner core by breaking through his physical, mental and emotional limitations and connecting with him.

Master Tony is very real and serious, a Master at:
Flogging/Spanking
Waxplay
Fireplay
Iceplay
CBT
TT
Bondage of course - restraints & simple rope bondage
Sounds
Some Electro
Some Sensory Deprivation
Anal play
and more...

Visit our website to find out more information about them and the other dominants - CommandPerformance.net

In which I rip My heart Open to help you understand Me

I was recently having a conversation with a (gasp!) vanilla friend of mine and the topic turned to kink.


I explained a bit about what I do in sessions. Invetiably the follow up question was about whether I like doing "that stuff" in my "real" life too (I do!), what the difference is; (more input from me on what activities scene will include and also the possibility of sex, and perhaps a drink with one another after), and what I get out of it.


The underlying assumption behind that last question being that, apart from the joy of bossing another human being around, the sex life of the do-er is a pale shadow compared to that of the done-to.


So, I've been doing some thinking about Domme-ing (both in my pro and personal life) and what it is that I get out of it.


I hope you are sitting down, because what I say next may shock some folks: outside of scene, I dont really get that much of a charge out of controlling another person, making sure he feels less than me and knows I'm alpha. Not into powerstuggles and micro-management.


Dont get me wrong, I'm not into being ordered around and I will metaphorically break your balls till you give me my due respect. It just doesnt get my panties wet.


I'd much rather break your balls in a literal way, while you are securely bound, naked, nipples all sore from being abused but still hard anyway. So I guess the first thing I get out of it is a sadistic thrill- sexy FUN inflicting this intense, startling and at times almost unbearable sensations and watching the responses of the subject.


The desire/need of the willing, almost desperately eager subject( or "victim" for those times one wants to play with "forced" type scenarios) is electric and addictive. If there's a drop of Dominance or Top blood in a girl's veins, once she sees the look of pure worship and utter longing in her sub or bottom's eyes as he gives up control and waits to see what she is going to do next, she will need to play this way again and again.


Then there's the endless fun of improvising new tortures, deciding to push a scene in this or that direction. Pushing different buttons in a different order. Taking on the character of whatever archetypal disciplinarienne I am today and twisting his words until I have obtained a confession. Devising punishments that will be a pleasure to administer and ingeniously fit whatever 'crime' I am addressing in the context of the scene. It's creative and theatrical . Even with no roleplay a good scene has dramatic pacing, tension builds to a cathartic climax (double entendre unintended but unavoidable.)


It WAKES ME THE FUCK UP!


I'm alert, focused, fully present and tuned in to what I'm doing. it takes me out of myself and I'm beyond being crabby or mopey or anxious. I'm just RIGHT HERE doing this and trying to tune in on the current passing back and forth between us. That may be the most hippee-fied thing I've ever written but it's no joke, I feel energized after a good scene.


So: sadistic sexual thrills, druglike rush of adoration, kick-ass creative outlet and mood stabilizing energy source- not a bad deal for yours truly IMO. In fact, the best I've found.

A peek inside Lady Lotus's feverish mind

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Now You're Playing with Fire!

This Sunday, February 13th is Newbie Night at the Dungeon. Newbie Night has been growing by leaps and bounds and the energy is terrific. We are excited to welcome demonstator Laurence Fox who will be showcasing Fireplay.

This event starts at 730 and goes until 1130 or so. Door charge is $10.

Call Me (954) 782 1778 with questions or for directions.

Newbie Night is an excellent opportunity for those who are curious about getting more involved in the BDSM lifestyle to meet local kinksters. There is usually a healthy mix of the new and seasoned and those with questions will find that those with the cool toys and lots of expirience are more than happy to share their knowledge and offer advice.

This event is part of OTC which is a discussion group that meets to talk BDSM related topics at Denny's @Oakland and Powerline. If you are interested in the discussion group, it takes place just before the demo/playparty at 5pm.

You can contact Zilah's fetlife or call Pup at (954) 536-5414

Love Comes in Spurts

Though it is only mid-January, we scheming day and night in order to come up with plans for February's events. Lady Lotus has decided that February 2011 will be the start of Command Performance's Month of Love, and I couldn't be happier about it.

Many nights we at Command Performance have listened to both male and female fetishists, D/s relationship seekers and kinksters of all stripes cry the blues about the lack of suitable mates out there in the big,bad world. These attractive and pleasant folks are horny and frustrated with both trying to broach the topic of kink on a vanilla date and the luck they are having making the rounds of Munches, parties and fetish events. It seemed a baffling state of affairs and also a shame that so many perfectly good perverts were going to waste.

No longer will the sorry stories of lonliness and heartache assualt our ears. Lady Lotus is playing matchmaker and will help any single person out there in the BDSM scene here in south Florida find a mate, a date, a playpartner or perhaps the Mistress or Master of his/her dreams. By clicking HERE and filling out this form, anyone interested can place themselves in her capable hands and be matched up with someone for a date. Contact Lady Regina or Lady Lotus: demonatrixlotuslain@gmail.com for more details.

As if that isn't enough; the month of Love continues with BDSM speed dating at Command Performance Friday, Feb 18th. ALL INTERESTED PARTIES MUST RSVP with Lady Regina by phone (954) 782 1778 or email : ladyregina@commandperformance.net

This should prove to be interesting and if Dom(me) and sub should meet and hit it off, the are already in a Dungeon. Convenient, no?

So dont moan with despair about your lonely nights when you could soon be filling them with moans of satisfaction. Sign up, come out, meet some interesting people and perhaps do wildly deviant and in appropriate things with them.

Match Maker, make me a match!