Hammer? Check. Nails? Check. Table Saw? Check!

Scared? Well, good news... we're not talking about a scene, you silly cowards! The dungeon of Command Performance is getting an upgrade! Coming very soon, a full bathroom and a full rubber room. I can already hear the latex squeak!

7 days makes 1 weak

Well, it makes me weak. In the knees that is.

I guess I haven't formally introduced myself to the blog readers, but I'm Aarkey. I have been the webservant for Command Performance for a few years now, and as of last October, and with my wife's support, I have been a submissive under a contract to Headmistress Lady Regina. Last April that dynamic changed a bit, and in the last month, we updated the contract again. One of the facets of the new contract, Lady Regina is the keyholder to my chastity belt. And to put it simply, I think she likes it. At least she seems to really like how absolutely messed in the head I get by it.

I have played with and studied various male chastity devices for the better part of 8 years now, and I have learned that experiences can vary dramatically. If anyone has ever experienced chastity that goes on for more than a day, the physical challenges are part of what's tough to over come, but once you find the right chastity device fit, lube, underwear, lifestyle, way to clean it, etc... the psychological challenges are a beautiful thing, beautiful in a BDSM kinda way.

The control, the discipline, the denial, the teasing, the symoblism... it's a wild ride. And for me, after 7 full days in chastity I'm sitting on the edge of a sort of sub-space pretty much all day. This particular ride started last week, when I told Lady Regina I was going to be out of town for a conference from Friday AM to Sunday late, I was instructed to report to Command Performance last Thursday night, to be locked up. The feeling I had putting the anklet and key on Mistress, was exciting. It's new for us. Before this last contract revision, my wife had held my key. And, though she gave it a noble effort, she was just a very sympathetic domme, if you get my drift.

And so far, Lady Regina simply is enjoying my suffering too much to give in because I've whined a bit... actually I think the whining encourages her enjoyment of it. I just hope that she doesn't decide that I should stay in it for too much longer. She said I should "ask for when to get out" and I asked for Saturday. Knowing her, she might prostate milk me and then leave me in. I think I would hate that almost as much as the briar patch! *dreamy sigh*

Ahhh, the wicked webs we jump into ;)

Who knows where it all goes...

A Patron Saint for My Profession

So, a few years ago I was in this Dollar Store in Hollywood and saw these green candles for Santa Marta La Dominadora. As a Catholic girl gone bad, I was intrigued and, though I never found anything officially saying that she is the Patron Saint of Dominatrices,I did find lots testimony on blogs about santeria and the like which testify to her power at bringing wayward lovers and boyfriends to their knees.
This is her (totally ass-kicking) prayer:

Holy Virgin Saint Martha,
Who entered the mountain and tied
Up the beast with your ribbons,
I beg you to tie up and dominate [insert name of target].

Saint Martha,
Let him/her not sit in a chair,
Nor lie in a bed until he/she is at my feet.
Holy Martha, hear me,
Help Me for the love of God.

Holy Virgin Martha,
For the oil which you will consume today,
For the oil which nourishes this lamp,
For the wick which burns away all impurities,
I dedicate this Lamp to you,
So that you may relieve me
Of all my Miseries
And Help Me to Overcome all Difficulties.
As You dominated the beast at your feet,
Give me Health and Work
So that I may provide for my needs.

My Mother,
Grant me that [insert target's name]
May not live in Peace,
Until he/she comes to stand at my feet.
In this way my Mother,
For the Love of God
Grant my Petition and Eliminate My Misery.
Amen.

The feast day of Santa Marta Dominadora is July 29th. Celebrate by tying that special someone in your life up with ribbons not letting him "sit in a chair nor lie in a bed until he is at your feet" as suggested.

A summer schedule of events that grabs you by the balls and wont let go

Ahem! Now that I have everyone's attention let's discuss what's new for July 2011 at CP:

We will be open Sunday nights until September. Anyone who has lamented the lack of options for Sunday night play can rejoice. And when they have finished rejoicing they can pack their toy bags and head for the Dungeon. Lady Monica (pictured) will be holding court and taking private sessions. If any single sub males have been curious about meeting her, this is the perfect time.

CFNM (clothed female naked male) on JULY 8th - This is a celebration of Female Dominance and the objectification of males. These parties have been a big hit and third time should be the best yet!
Check out the fetlife page or e-mail ladyregina@commandperformance.net for more details.

Newcomer's Night on July 10th - Ms. Claudia helps host this demo and play party with Master Matt and Pup from Off the Cuff bringing in amazing presenters who demo their specialty and answer questions and then its open playtime.

July 21st is Foot and Fetish party - a great time to sample short sessions from a variety of Dommes

Plus we are still offering a special deal on Double Domme sessions through the summer.

As for Open House schedule of Mistresses on Duty it is as follows:

Wednesday - Lady Lotus (and janet!)
Thursday - Mistress Bella
Friday - Lady Lotus
Saturday - Ms. Shae Fatale
Sunday - Lady Monica

and of course I, Lady Regina, am there overseeing all the madness and instigating and inciting people to new levels of depravity.

Looking lovely laced up!

New pictures are coming soon for the indomitable, Mistress Bella!Check back soon, I'm sure with enough lube we'll be able to fit that update in soon :)

The CP Staff are the Baddest Bitches!

Look at this picture that Carter Spade took of us at the Fetish Factory Anniversary Fetish Ball last Saturday. (left to right- Ms.Shae Fatale, Lady Monica, Lady Lotus, Lady Regina, Taylor Dawn aka janet, and Mistress Bella) See how brain meltingly hot we all are? You know you want us.

I have the most glamorous, gorgeous and interesting people in all the land working here and I love them!!!

CFNM II- Fait acompli. Some musings in the afterglow

So much fun at CFNM II!
I can't believe almost a week has gone by since we had our second Clothed Female Naked Male Party here at Command Performance. I spent most of the night getting men out of their clothes, which is pretty entertaining in itself. Lots of great Dommes came out and scenes of powerful women having their way with various naked males were going on almost constantly throughout the night. Ms. V lead the cupcake licking contest again with great results from many of the slaves competing to show off their skills. Once again Ms. Maya Little was a superb co-hostess. Taylor Dawn( that's his porn-star name, he'll always be janet to me!) and boy micheal were terrific helper monkeys but it didn't stop either one of them from making themselves both attractive and useful to certain certain lovely kinkstresses who were attending a Fem Dom party at CP for the first time.
You can read more about this party on the Fetlife page

I'm really liking the CFNM parties. When I've spoken to other female friends about these parties they are always impressed at how many guys are excited about attending these parties (some visibly so- initials SB!) and how much cuter the men who come out for CFNM events tend to be vs. the other BDSM playparties. It obviously fills a need for more than a few men out there in our local scene. I have been thinking about what exactly explains the popularity of the CFNM fetish and particularly the CFNM FemDom party. Is it a need for exhibtionism? Is it just wanting some validation for all those hours spent in the gym or perhaps a more vulgar wish to get women to look at and admire the member that brings so much pride and pleasure to the male to which it is attached?
Dare I hope it is a true craving to be put in vulnerable and perhaps semi humiliating situations or to serve Superior Females before a roomful of people?
Could it be the much talked about but rarely seen " alpha male's deep seated craving to submit completely to a strong Domme Female" in search of a safe place to come out and play as it were?
I have a theory that lots of males in this culture at this time crave sexual objectification for a number of reasons. One is that after generations of using sex to sell- well, everything I believe that there is a natural tendency to equate sex appeal with units of worth in this culture. Hence ALL CITZENS are fascinated to some degree with becoming that sexy thing that = the value of anything worth having. Women(or anyone presenting as femme) have many more chances to try on this identity and bask in glow of acting out this pop culture persona and recieving all the attention that doing so brings- which is nothing to sneeze at. Men rarely have an opporuntiy and so have a reserviour of desrie to play this part which the CFNM taps into.
However, I think that this is the primary reason:
After a number of years chasing after girls and expending all of the effort involved in courtship and sexual congress as the active partner (the one who chases, who desires, who by implication, is missing something that only the object of his persuit can provide) a man must regard the other side of that equation with curiousity and a bit of envy. What must it be like to have someone want you, to lust after you and due to these lustful stirrings to be so motivated to chase you, to make you feel like a piece of meast, a piece of candy, a piece of ass, something to be hunted, taken..?

I originally arrived at this theory in mulling over the psychology of crossdressers who are not transgender but that's another entry for another time.
The CFNM fetish offers another paradigm of the sexually objectified male- one in which he does not give up his male identity or appearance or cover them with femme trappings in order to become a sex object.

It's interesting and, whatever the deep-seated or more shallowly seated yearning that make this fetish so popular, I'm a fan.
Viva CFNM!