Recently, Lady Regina and i were discussing cuckholding, a subject of fascinating curiousity to Her and one which i find among the most powerful and erotic ways a Female can dominate Her submissive.
For those of you who are not familiar with the subject, cuckolding is a fetish/scenario whereby the dominant female has the luxury to have sex with whomever she would like and the submissive male does not. Often this can involve the male being kept in chastity. In some scenarios the male slave may be present for the act and even a participant as a fluffer or to clean his Mistress and Her lover.
Why is cuckolding so powerful? In the mainstream vanilla world, men are supposed to be tough and macho and the "studs" sleep with multiple partners. Cuckolding turns this convention on its head. In the cuckolding relationship, the Dominant Female has Her pick of lovers and the male slave, often chaste, has absolutely no say in the matter. Men, even men who are predisposed to to be submissive, still wrestle assuming a position of ultimate submission that is required of a cuckold. In effect, being a good cuckold requires the cuck to give himself completely to his Domme, Her needs not only matter the most, they are the only thing that matters. However, if the cuck is a true submissive who takes joy and pleasure from seeing his Domme happy, then this act of ultimate humiliation is also the pinnacle of servitude and thus eroticism. As with many things in life, this is a self reinforcing circle.
That, at least, is my theory. The limited amount of cuckolding scenes that i've been involved in have had several common themes: heavy humiliation (both verbal and physical), chastity, heavy sexual overtones that ultimately mature into the physical act itself and they've taken a relatively long period of time to play out (several days of lead in time).
Let's discuss how an episode of cuckolding might look. i'll write from the cuck's view because 1) it is the only view i've had and 2) it is the view that, while utterly humiliating, is totally exciting to me me as well.
The slave may be called to see the Mistress on a Monday. The Mistress has a long run plan in Her head, but the slave will only learn of this as it unfolds. It is the slave's duty to respond properly and enthusiastically to keep the sexual tension high and to make sure that Mistress enjoys Herself thoroughly. In this case, Mistress would start by locking the slave into a chastity belt. my experience indicates that the CB 6000 is a great tool for this as it is secure and can be locked with a number plastic lock that still allows for air travel and passage through metal detectors. She can then tease the slave about how his most prized possession, his cock (or clit) is no longer his. The goal is to get both parties in the mood. She is reveling in Her unbridled dominance. Before Her kneels a slave with his cock locked up while She tells him that She has met a real man who She is going to go on a date with. A real man that can pleasure Her in ways that the slave, with his tiny little cock, simply cannot. Though i have never been in Her role, i can imagine the rush of power and the lusty thoughts.
i have been in the slave's role and endured a scenario similar to what i am describing here. It is a combination of a complete feeling of loss of control, a healthy dose of fear as i've realized how vulnerable i am and a desire to submit even further. If Mistress is excited now, what else can i do to heighten Her feelings of power and sexuality. my thoughts solidify around a single goal: What can i do to please Her? (Full disclosure i want to serve Her on Her terms but i selfishly take great pleasure from the act of doing. i think that true submissives feel sexual pleasure when their Domme/Dom is turned on. Submission is, in effect, it's own reward.)
The week would then unfold in a heightened state of sexual awareness/tension. The slave/cuck remains in chastity. For him, the everything is now eroticized. If it is time to do the dishes for Mistress, this act is sexual because it is humbling and now release is impossible. The day job at the office becomes harder, as the cuck's thoughts continue to focus on the Mistress and the chastity belt permits an erection let alone an orgasm. The slave/cuck marches deeper and deeper into subspace on an hourly basis.
Mistress, for Her part, can foster the process and deepen Her control easily. During the week, She should use the slave as She sees fit. If She is feeling sadistic, then by all means, beatings should occur. If She feels like using Her strap-on, then the slave should be taken at Her whim. However, She must not let him cum. The slave is caught in Her trap, but an orgasm is the relief that will free him. It should be denied at all costs. Rather, the Mistress should constantly remind the slave that he will not be cumming this week at all. That the slave's orgasm is tied to how he behaves on Friday when Mistress has Her big date with a "real man". This is a not so subtle twist of the knife that reaffirms to the slave that he is a cuck, the lowest of the low, and that his sexual release is tied to Her pleasure in whatever form She decides to take it.
When the big night arrives, the build up of sexual tension should kick into higher gear. The cuck should be focused solely on his Mistress. He should bathe Her, shave Her legs, help Her pick out clothing and generally get Her ready for Her date. Mistress should remain a tease, telling him about Her stud and how hot She is for tonight. On the other hand, She should tell Her cuck how important he is as a slave/cuck. She should let the cuck know that this pleases Her and is the "correct" order of things. This will greatly arouse the cuck and frustrate him too. He will be so desperate to please at this point that he will be a putty in the Domme's hands.
Now we move into the actual date itself. It is entirely possible that the "real man" may not be kink friendly and so the slave must be kept out of sight and out of mind until "Mr. Wonderful" has gone home. However, let us, for the sake of this article, assume that the "real man" is scene friendly. The possibilities for the Mistress who truly wants to humiliate Her slave/cuck are much broader and the fantasy itself becomes even more intense.
The slave/cuck's focus now shifts slowly from a focus solely on Mistress to a focus on Mistress and Her date. This is the hard part, mentally, for the slave. he must now get over the stereotypical role that society has forced upon him. he is about to become the cuck in fact as well as in theory. This is the ultimate form of humiliation and submission. How can the cuck get there? The answer is simple: focus on and trust in Mistress. This is Her fantasy too, if She wants it, then it is the duty of the cuck to enthusiastically embrace it and do everything in his power to make it a hot, sexy night for Her.
Mistress may wish to accentuate the differences between Her cuck and Her stud. To this end, a maid's outfit is appropriate for the cuck to wear. Something slutty and humiliating to make the point that while the cuck may have thought himself to be a man at one point in time, that is clearly not the case now. The cuck should answer the door for Mistress's stud and graciously show him into Her home. The cuck must immediately fetch a drink for the stud and make sure that he is comfortable while Mistress finishes getting dressed. Once the "real man" is taken care of, the cuck can let Mistress know that Her guest has arrived and is waiting, comfortably, for Her.
Mistress's arrival should be a grand event with the cuck/maid attending to Her. If She and Her stud are already intimate, kissing and and a little play might be a nice way to get their juices flowing while reminding the cuck that he is there for their pleasure. As the happy couple is leaving for their date, Mistress can give the cuck a laundry lists of tasks to accomplish while they are gone. This reinforces the submissive nature of the cuck and makes clear the point that Mistress is having fun while Her slave toils for Her behalf. If Mistress is feeling generous, She may periodically call the cuck throughout the date to let him know how much fun She is having or how wet She is etc.
When the date ends and Mistress and Her stud come home, the week's worth of teasing and mental play come to a head. The cuck/maid must greet them at the door. Perhaps Mistress and Her stud want to play? In which case, a quick trip to the dungeon is a must. However, what may be more likely is that Mistress and Her stud are so turned on that they are ready to get to the bedroom. In which case the maid should lead them upstairs and make herself available to them. Mistress, if She likes a little show, may require Her maid to suck Her lover's cock to get him ready. The cuck/maid should fall to the task with a relish and get the stud hot, hard and ready for Mistress. If the cuck is lucky, Mistress might want him to worship Her pussy as well. If not, the cuck's role is that of a sex toy as Mistress and Her stud fuck. Perhaps an asshole or toe needs to be licked? The cuck must attend to it without a second thought. Does Mistress want the cuck to lick the bulls' balls while She is getting fucked? If so, then the cuck must attend to it. Perhaps She simply wants to degrade the cuck by making him watch in silence? So be it. (my favorite is being underneath while they fuck doggy style as this allows my tongue to be put to use on Mistress' clit or the bulls cock and balls.) The point is that the cuck is there to make a hot night even hotter. The cuck is a living, breathing sex toy that responds, instantly,obediently and enthusiastically to Mistress's will.
Finally, Mistress and Her stud will cum. The cuck is now at another important cross roads. One of the conventions in BDSM cuckoldry is the notion of the cuck as a clean-up maid. Mistress might direct the cuck to lick Her bulls' shaft and balls clean, She may tease him about being a cock sucker/ cum eater or ask him if he likes tasting Her pussy on another man's cock. The cuck must comply. Then the cuck may be directed to lick Mistress's pussy clean. The cuck should welcome this task as it pleases his Mistress and reaffirms his place as the lowest of the low. This is the point of ultimate submission and humiliation. The cuck, to please is Mistress and reaffirm his role, is throwing away the last vestiges of control and masculinity and giving himself, wholly, to his Mistress. It is powerful, beautiful and humiliating. (my favorite instance occurred when Mistress had me kneel beside the bed, after they had finished fucking, Her bull grabbed my hair and guided my head between Her legs to Her pussy and said, "your Mistress needs you for some cleaning maid", they both laughed a little as i fell to my appointed task.)
The evening can then unfold on any number of lines. Perhaps the bull is spending the night. If he is, the cuck's services may or may not be needed. If he is leaving, the cuck should make sure that Mistress and Her lover have as much space as they need to say goodnight and the cuck should remain respectful and submissive to the bull until the moment he leaves. The Mistress might then favor the cuck by removing the chastity device and allowing an orgasm. If the cuck is that lucky, he should be ready to clean up his mess with his tongue, an act that might already be second nature!
Well, i don't know if i answered the question is cuckolding the ultimate form of humiliation, submission of both? i have tried, however imperfectly, to give some access to mind of the cuck as i see it. i hope this serves to brings this exciting and, i think, important area of the Fem Domme culture to life in a real way that fosters, discussion, experimentation and a lot of hot sexy evenings for You/you readers!
Fondly,
babbette
